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Many people are finding themselves working from home for the first time or much more than usual, add being stuck with family to the mix and productivity takes a nosedive. The good news is that productivity comes down to a number of set behaviours that you can learn to turn things around. Here are ten behaviours that you can implement to help you stay productive and manage your work / life balance.

Don’t pick battles that you’re never going to win (use the art of subtle influence instead)

You’re never going to win by picking a battle with your partner and/or kids. The most you’ll do is exhaust yourself and anger your loved ones. …


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Getting your family members to do chores can be an uphill battle at times; your kids protest as they’d rather be playing a video game or on social media, your partner is tired from working and doesn’t like cleaning the floor at the best of times. It can seem like a running battle that never ends where you end up doing all the chores, leading to a lot of frustration and inevitably arguments.

Many of us when faced with this situation have given in to arguing with our family leading to temporary reprieves where they help out with chores, only for them to go back to refusing to do them as soon as they see your anger has passed — I know I’ve done the same in the past. But the only problem with this is that it doesn’t lead to long-lasting behaviour change: You’re still in a constant battle to get them to do things rather than them having formed a habit of completing chores without being asked. …


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For many relationships sexual passion wanes as time passes. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be that way; two thirds of couples who have satisfying sexual lives report having the same levels of passion that they did at the beginning of their relationships. I’m going to show you 6 ways that you can keep the passion alive within your relationship (based on research by Frederick, D. A. et al. (2016).) …


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Keeping your mood and wellness levels elevated is really important during this pandemic. Your mood and wellness levels have a direct impact on how well your body is working, on your immune system, heart health, and mental health.

I’m going to show you 21 of the best mood-boosting techniques to help you protect yourself and your loved ones this winter.

1. Look at happy faces

This one might seem a bit unusual at first but there is research that shows when we purposefully look at photos or videos of smiling people for 5–10 minutes a day it leads to lower levels of depression and higher levels of happiness. …


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For many people in these hard times feelings of sadness, fear, and depression have been coming up, but often the source of these emotions is something that we don’t often acknowledge: it’s grief.

Grief happens when we lose something that is important to us.

Many people primarily associate grief with the death of a loved one but grief can also be felt whenever there is a loss of something important to us. It might be our job, our loss of freedom, or when our kids move out for the first time.

During this time many of us have felt loss, either through having to sacrifice some of our freedoms and our plans to protect ourselves and others, or through situations out of our control such as a job loss or loss of customers. Doing what we love and being able to plan for the future are an integral part of our wellbeing. When these two parts of life are impacted there can be a natural sense of loss and grief. …


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The biggest lie that you’ve ever heard will be that “opposites attract.” In fact one of the best ways to ruin your future romantic relationship prospects is to look for a person completely different to you. Opposites might attract at times but they very rarely stay together and not in a healthy way.

The one thing that determines the strength of your relationships is similarity.

Having shared loves will help to bond you and keep you close throughout the course of your life. Having similar hobbies, aspirations, and desires means that you’ll both move forward together in the same direction.

But really it’s more than shared hobbies and plans that make relationships strong; it’s the shared reality that you both have that makes a relationship strong. …


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The Four Horsemen of a relationship are the four behaviours (Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling) that are the most corrosive and destructive to any relationship. Their presence over time they can predict breakups and divorces with an accuracy of over 80% (according to Gottman institute research.) You’re going to learn what they are, how to manage them, and the best ways to help prevent these destructive behaviours.

Defensiveness

Never admit your own part in arguments? Never think you’re at fault for anything? Always try to argue your corner? Then you’re stuck in defensiveness.

When you are defensive you will argue that you did nothing wrong when your partner is upset about one of your actions. You won’t admit your part in their hurt feelings and instead play innocent. …


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This is a high-pressure time and during periods of stress it’s very easy for even the kindest person to start hating and resenting their loved ones. When you’re under a lot of stress, compassion fatigue sets in and it can be hard to have empathy and compassion for those around you including your loved ones.

Compassion fatigue can be defined as a state where your usual level of empathy and compassion for people around you gets exhausted and either lowers or becomes non-existent. This usually happens as a response to stress due to being overwhelmed and/or exhausted.

When we are stressed and tired it makes it harder to have compassion for our loved ones as it takes effort to empathise with them and to stop ourselves from reacting to them. Tiredness and stress also make emotional control more difficult. Hating is easy as it takes no effort, whereas having empathy and being loving is hard at times. …


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When it comes to people there are some fundamental rules that will help you to boost your success in every area of your life. There are number of universal rules that influence us as humans, I’m going to teach you 10 of the very best to help you to become more successful, let’s dive in.

Presence and curiosity are captivating

People love attention. It’s a fact. Even the most introverted person enjoys someone paying true attention to them. We’re all social animals.

The thing is that most of us don’t get full attention from even one person never mind many people. As Simone Weil said: “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” People are either thinking about themselves or distracted most of the time. …


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Anxiety levels are up in most people during this difficult time. We could all do with a confidence boost and that’s where the technique that everyone from Beyoncé to NBA players use to increase their performance is going to help.

Let’s face it dating can be scary for most people. You want to make a great impression. You worry about what your date will think of you. You really want to find an amazing partner. You’re meeting a new person for the first time. …

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Simon Samuels

Relationship Researcher & Coach: Creating Healthy Relationships @ www.simonsamuels.com

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