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Failing at dating? I’m here to help you not fail with some of the ultimate dating strategies to help you find the perfect partner for you.

The build a web, draw them in and catch them strategy

When dating you can either attract people to you, or try to attract other people. It’s the difference between waiting for your date to come to you, and chasing them. This first strategy is all about drawing dates to you.

People are drawn romantically to those who have some similar passions. If you are into keeping fit then be dedicated and passionate about it. If you’re into movies, or music, or writing, then be…


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If you want successful kids you have to teach them well. So buckle up because these are the most vital things that you need to teach your kids if you want them to be thriving adults.

Financials

Money matters. It’s the difference between being healthy and happy, and being ill and broke. Teaching your children the power of choosing a steady career and having no debt is one of the greatest things you can do for them.

Some people will say to teach your kids that health is much more important than money. Those people are wrong. If your kids end…


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Everyone wants to find the one for them, but the problem is how do you do that amongst a sea of possibilities?

That’s where the attributes method comes into play. By deciding on the specific attributes that you want to find in a new partner it gives you a clear idea of what you are really looking for.

So what attributes am I talking about? I am talking about everything from financial, to personality, to interests, to life goals. Now if you’re like most people this list is going to be long. …


Making life decisions that benefit yourself and others can be much harder than you think. How many of us have chosen to do, or not do, something that didn’t work out, or would have been beneficial for us and our family if we had have done it? I bet most people have experienced this, it’s part of being human. I know I have and that’s why I learnt the following process that’s helped me and many others to make better life decisions.

The problem with making life decisions like “should I take that new job?” is that we don’t always…


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For many relationships sexual passion wanes as time passes. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be that way; two thirds of couples who have satisfying sexual lives report having the same levels of passion that they did at the beginning of their relationships. I’m going to show you 6 ways that you can keep the passion alive within your relationship (based on research by Frederick, D. A. et al. (2016).) …


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Keeping your mood and wellness levels elevated is really important during this pandemic. Your mood and wellness levels have a direct impact on how well your body is working, on your immune system, heart health, and mental health.

I’m going to show you 21 of the best mood-boosting techniques to help you protect yourself and your loved ones this winter.

1. Look at happy faces

This one might seem a bit unusual at first but there is research that shows when we purposefully look at photos or videos of smiling people for 5–10 minutes a day it leads to lower levels of depression and higher…


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For many people in these hard times feelings of sadness, fear, and depression have been coming up, but often the source of these emotions is something that we don’t often acknowledge: it’s grief.

Grief happens when we lose something that is important to us.

Many people primarily associate grief with the death of a loved one but grief can also be felt whenever there is a loss of something important to us. It might be our job, our loss of freedom, or when our kids move out for the first time.

During this time many of us have felt loss…


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The biggest lie that you’ve ever heard will be that “opposites attract.” In fact one of the best ways to ruin your future romantic relationship prospects is to look for a person completely different to you. Opposites might attract at times but they very rarely stay together and not in a healthy way.

The one thing that determines the strength of your relationships is similarity.

Having shared loves will help to bond you and keep you close throughout the course of your life. Having similar hobbies, aspirations, and desires means that you’ll both move forward together in the same direction.


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The Four Horsemen of a relationship are the four behaviours (Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling) that are the most corrosive and destructive to any relationship. Their presence over time they can predict breakups and divorces with an accuracy of over 80% (according to Gottman institute research.) You’re going to learn what they are, how to manage them, and the best ways to help prevent these destructive behaviours.

Defensiveness

Never admit your own part in arguments? Never think you’re at fault for anything? Always try to argue your corner? Then you’re stuck in defensiveness.

When you are defensive you will argue that…


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This is a high-pressure time and during periods of stress it’s very easy for even the kindest person to start hating and resenting their loved ones. When you’re under a lot of stress, compassion fatigue sets in and it can be hard to have empathy and compassion for those around you including your loved ones.

Compassion fatigue can be defined as a state where your usual level of empathy and compassion for people around you gets exhausted and either lowers or becomes non-existent. This usually happens as a response to stress due to being overwhelmed and/or exhausted.

When we are…

Simon Samuels

Relationship Researcher & Coach: Creating Healthy Relationships @ www.simonsamuels.com

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